What is it that motivates one person to sexually assault another? Is it part of the tendency to assault others in general? Is it part of being a bully?
With the Electoral victory of a President who admitted proudly that he grabbed pussy, a tsunami of trauma has swept across the country. We are all suddenly recalling acts of assault throughout our lives.
When I was in High school
Is assault part of our DNA? Some biologists insist that we are more like the chimpanzees than other primates because we are aggressive. Not all primates are. Take the Bonobo. They happily engage, peacefully, in every form of sexuality our religion and our laws condemn, including sex with minors. Masturbation of every conceivable pairing is practiced.
The Bonobo are among the most peaceful and contented species on Earth. The Dolphins are similar.
Wine comes in at the mouth
And love comes in at the eye;
That’s all we shall know for truth
Before we grow old and die.
I lift the glass to my mouth,
I look at you, and I sigh.
Is saying that to someone harassment?
One of the results of the tsunami of pain is a false extension of blame from a subset to the entire set.
Ever hear of Circe? Ever see Sunset Boulevard?
So yes, if you want to include groping, I must say "Me Too." Groped by women and men for decades. And I was many times pressured to have sex with others, again both women and men. But I was never raped and never assaulted after elementary school "play." I was fortunate in that I was able to let it go.
Demonizing the other, saying them, not us, is always the easy way out. "I didn't vote for Trump, not my problem." Not My President.